Why do my parents fight? Why is my big sister mean? How come there is so much hate in my family? Many people ask themselves the above questions, but they cannot find the answers. The reason for this might be because there is no straight forward answer. Many young people go through tough experiences in their life despite their young age. Some witness their parents divorce, while others bystander the death of a relative. What is this pain suppose to teach me? It is suppose to make you stronger and wiser. It is suppose prevent you from making the mistakes your parents have made. It is suppose to show you the negative effects of an alcoholic, a drug user, and an immoral individual, so; when you get older you do not become the person you looked down upon when you were younger. Many people argue that the grown-up one becomes depends solely on one´s childhood. However, such an argument underestimates the power that an individual holds. God has given humans a conscience and the ability to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong. Once a person chooses to extinguish their conscience because it causes soreness in the lifestyle they lead, existence becomes very confusing and hard. At this point, a person begins blaming their mother, their father, their neighbor, and most popularly God. The only person they didn´t blame is themselves. Who decided to smoke and drink? Who decided to steal? Who decided to cheat on their spouse? Who made these choices? Outside influences sway a person´s decisions, but ultimately, it is the choice of the beholder to listen to that little voice upstairs.